It’s better to of loved and lost then to of never of loved at all. Another age old expression with so much meaning and so little context. The idea of it does sound ridiculous . And if you say it few times over it doesn’t get any better. Almost sounds a tad bit ridiculous . But to truly experience love , or the premonition you were in love , even if it isn’t a returned feeling at that time, is spiritually remarkable.
In order to obtain a feeling . Or thought . You must put forth energy. Even if was the only one time in life felt that feeling for even one day. Is still a spark needed to ignite a fire. You have to have energy to produce energy. There is no immaculate conception . You just woke up one day and are the most loving , loved person . And that just evaporated out of anger and lifeless living. Doesn’t work that way. It’s a nice tale. But love requires desire to be loved, and the ability to love.
I believe it is a trained feeling. We’re all born with the instinct . But we’re also born with abilities to ride a bike, and drive a car, and throw a ball. Though without some form of guidance or teaching those abilities don’t surface . Just fade into what never was . For most of humanity that begins with a mother and a father. Further down the road transcends to friends and lovers. I guess you can say what came first chicken or the egg. But at some point it boils down to being shown. Hard for someone to love who’s never been shown.
With each encounter of love, be it may a parent or lover or pet. One learns the ability to love. A spark is formed , and each spark leads to the chance of that ever burning fire of love . Like a candle melting away in your chest. That not the devil himself can put out.
The loss of love is devastating and hurtful. Can lead you down roads you never thought you’d go. But as with life that’s a lesson. A choice we must face to see what we are gonna do next . To see if we are gonna push for more or give up. Are we gonna digress , or are we gonna propel ourself to a height we never been before striving to achieve love like never before. Laws of attraction state fear will always win . Whatever you fear you will manifest into failure. So fearing to lose love before you even got it , to fall into the cliche is preventing yourself from loving.
So with that being said. I believe it is better to of loved and lost then to of never loved at all. For if you have never loved. Your falling far behind on the chance of experiencing life. Life isn’t about money , and houses , and yachts and turnin up they call it. But it’s about love and growing. When it’s all said and done and are bodies hit the dirt. Our soul moves on. The spirit rises as the Native American believe. Where does it go? What does it become? A question we may never see or know. But if it survives further then the illusion of time we stride through on earth . It will be a miserable existence of eternity with only empty memories and jaded thoughts of the past of a life of no love.
Be the reason someone knows love. If you have a child , hold them. Tell them there worthy and make sure you say I love you as much as you can. If you have a significant other. Make sure they know there worthy of life and love. Hold them at night and smile when they wake. Show relentless acts of kindness and say I love you as much as you can. If you are alone and have a pet . Don’t spoil them so they run your life , but spend each day throwing a ball , and telling them you love them. Spark love in both your life’s until the energy is so high it carries over into someone you want to be close with. If you don’t have a pet or a person. Tell your mailman everyday you love them for bringing your mail every day. There are no excuses as to how you may spread and share a feeling that can grow and fester in the circle around you.
If you go through any event in life not being able to for the fear your gonna not have it or lose it. Your missing out on the big picture . It’s all memories when we get buried. In the end it’s all lost. And only through loving and losing and loving till you win. Will you get that chance to truly know love.
Love is faith. Faith is hope. And what you hope is all you’ll get . Hope for what you want, not for what you don’t want. Laws of attraction . If you say you don’t want this your just willing this more. If you say you want this your increasing its chance. Today . Say I want more of this. Not I don’t want this. And go for it head on. Like sands though the hour glass ticking away. So is every second on your lifespan . To love and to of lost will only take you to where you need to be or want to be. If I had a dollar for every time my heart has been broken in these 36 years , I’d had money to eat dinner tonight. But if I never had those loves to lose. I would never of gotten to the point I am today. To know I want love and I want to be loved.
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